Lesson "Arrogance is Not Attractive"

We are passionate females. We care about things in life, whether that be volunteering, sports, careers, etcetera. And we are confident with ourselves and honest with our abilities at whatever we have chosen to do. We don't need you to boast about how good you are at something somewhat related especially if we are not bragging about ourselves. That's not impressive, it's just annoying.

For example I went on a kayaking blind date with a super competitive guy. At the very least, he did pay for my kayak (I'll save money for another lesson though) which does give him a plus. However, once we were out on the water he immediately started to give me kayaking technique tips. I know my kayaking isn't the greatest but hey let's just chill out here. I didn't know we were out here to go fast. Maybe he assumed because I'm a triathlete that somehow the running/cycling/swimming skills translate over to kayaking, but really, they do not.

Also, it is completely unnecessary to challenge us to race. Yes, I know you are a better kayaker than me for a couple reasons. First of all you own a kayak and therefore likely to go kayaking more often than I do. Second of all you are of the male gender meaning you should have more muscle and are inherently stronger and therefore faster. I don't appreciate being challenged to a race. Being crazy competitive is not a turn-on. I don't want to feel I have to compete with a significant other.

And what do I remember most about the entire date? You saying, "Too bad the weather is cool. Normally I'd take my shirt off to show my smokin' hot bod." Alright DATE OVER.

Yes boys, arrogance and over-competitiveness is not attractive. If we like you, we like you for who you are.  We appreciate humility and that is more appealing, plus it gives us a chance to learn about the real you and not some puffed-up version. Nor do any of us want to feel like you are always measuring yourself against us, or competing against us. That is kind of repulsive.